As many of you know, I've been making handmade cosmetics for years, and I'm reminded of the first time I learned to make bar soap.
The sweet older lady who walked me through the process had just finished showing me how to cut the soap block into individual bars, and I asked her, "How long will it be before I can use it?"
She said, "The soap needs time to cure, so you need to wait at least 8 weeks. Otherwise, it will break down too quickly and possibly burn your skin."
I've never been a patient woman, so I jumped in the shower with my first handmade bar of soap after about 4 week. After my shower, the bar was 80% gone—not because I had used too much, but because that old lady knew what she was talking about. (no burns though!)
Breast implants are quite similar actually...
I know I don't have to tell you that you shouldn't expect sex to be "normal" immediately after your breast augmentation surgery. Even still, I'm right there with you. When I met my plastic surgeon, the conversation sounded a lot like this... "Are you board certified? Great. How long until I can have sex?"
Here's some good news for you and your SO (significant other). Unlike old ladies who teach soapmaking, most plastic surgeon won't ask you to wait 8 weeks to have sex after getting a boob job.
While every surgeon is different, I've been around breast implants long enough to say with confidence that there are three common milestones to having sex with breast implants. Let's take a look at each of them...
Having Sex One Week After Getting Breast Implants
Most plastic surgeons will recommend that you don't have sex until at least a week after you get a breast augmentation, because there is way more risk than reward.
Even still, I run into ladies all the time who are like, "I just can't imagine going more than 2 days without making love to my bae. I'm going to risk it."
That's when I'm like...
You shouldn't wait a week to have sex as an exercise in self-discipline. It's so that you don't damage your internal stitches or get your heartrate so high that you develop a hematoma (I don't recommend Googling that if you have a weak stomach).
That being said, I do know plenty of ladies who had sex within a couple days of their breast augmentation surgery and didn't have any problems, but you just have to decide if it's worth the risk. Personally, I waited 10 days, and we took it very slow.
Having Sex One Month After Getting Breast Implants
While I have heard some plastic surgeons say that you shouldn't have any sex until a month after your breast augmentation, I've found that to be fairly rare (and some would say overly cautious).
Typically, the one month milestone is more about your personal activity level when it comes to sex. By this point, you should be just fine to get your heartrate up and be more of an active participant in the love making process.
A lot of women I know (including myself) weren't ready for an excessive amount of up and down movement, or for our SO's to be rough with the new girls, but light touch and caressing were definitely on the table.
Having Sex Three Months After Getting Breast Implants
The 3-month milestone is definitely where I remember everything starting to get magical...
As in, a whole new world kind of magical.
What I mean is... the majority of your discomfort has passed, you've started to drop and fluff, and your incisions should be healed nicely—especially if you used my Recovery Kit (shameless plug!)
Three months wasn't just the point where nothing felt physically off limits anymore, but it was also the point where I remember feeling like my new breasts were a part of me. They weren't awkward or in the way anymore, and I definitely felt a huge confidence and intimacy boost because of them. :-)
3 Tips for Having Sex with New Boobs
I thought it would be helpful to include a couple of things that I found helpful during those first couple of weeks that I started having sex after my breast augmentation.
- Tell your SO how gentle they should be. – Just come right out and tell them what you are comfortable with, and that you'll have to shut it down if they aren't able to respect it. They'll mind :-)
- Wear a bra or sports bra until you're ready for them to be touched. – I did this, and highly recommend it. Not only will it give you some additional support, but it will remind you and your SO to be gentle.
- Stay on your back. – While some ladies prefer to be on top to have more control, I found that it required too many muscles that were sore, so I preferred to be on my back. It kept my heartrate down, and allowed me to be more passive than active in those first couple of weeks.
Remember, you should always ask your plastic surgeon what they recommend for how long you should wait to have sex when getting breast implants. And of course, I highly encourage you to stick to that recommendation as close as possible.
You'll be glad you did, especially at the 3-month mark :-)