Dating with Breast Implants...To Tell or Not to Tell

Breast Implants and Breast Augmentation

So, you’ve booked the date and you’ve started counting down the days to your long awaited breast augmentation.

First of all, congratulations girl! It’s a big step and it’s a step that you should feel happy about. No doubt it’s been quite a journey to get to this point. :)

I often hear the phrase:

“I’m so happy I’m getting my breast implants but....”

What the ‘but’ is varies, and the one I want to focus on here is, "How do I tell the person I’m dating I’m having surgery?".

Dating In The Lead Up To Breast Implants

Our lives are full of exciting twists and turns! Adding dating in to the mix adds another dimension to your breast augmentation journey.

Let’s say you’ve just started dating someone new and you’re in that exciting getting-to-know-each-other phase. Things may or may not be physical yet but you have questions flying around inside your head “Should I tell them about my breast augmemtation?”, “What will they think?”, “How will I feel if they’re not on board with my decision?”.

First and foremost look at that last question again... hone in on the last bit... “my decision”. Bingo!

This is your decision.

While I wholeheartedly advocate giving a significant other a voice in your decision to get breast implants, if you’re in the early stages of a relationship this journey is pretty much just about you.

To Tell Or Not To Tell? That Is The Breast Implant Question

This is totally your decision... if you tell, who you tell and how much you tell them.

In the beginning of a relationship it can feel like first instinct to hide the more personal aspects of your life. But if you think the person you’re dating has long-term potential you’ll likely be thinking about sharing your breast augmentation journey with them.

You could start by asking them what their views on cosmetic surgery are. You’re obviously hoping they come back with something supportive. If they step up to the plate, that gives you your opener to tell them about your upcoming breast augmentation.

Before you get to this point though it’s worth asking yourself these three key questions in advance and you’ll be prepared for some of the questions they may have:

1. Why did you decide to get breast implants?

There are so many reasons why women choose to get breast implants.  Getting your own personal rationale clear in your head will help others understand it from your perspective (if you choose to tell them).

2. How long have you wanted to get breast implants?

There’s no right or wrong answer to this. My experience is that most people have wanted breast implants for a number of years and that helps others understand this isn’t a decision you’ve made on a whim.

3. What’s the best thing you’re imagining after your breast augmentation?

This links in with the first question. For me it was body confidence... filling out your clothes, wearing a bikini with confidence and feeling in proportion. I can promise you my expectations here were definitely realized!

The Best Possible Reaction

So, it’s all gone well... you’ve brought them up to speed and they’re totally on board. At this point it’ll all feel like a big relief no doubt.

Enjoy this time communicating and opening up to this new person in your life. Hopefully they’ll get excited with you about what’s ahead and be a great source of support to help you through your recovery.

But What If They’re Not On Board with Breast Impants?

If you decide to tell the person you’re dating about your breast augmentation you have to be prepared for the possibility that their reaction may not be the all-embracing acceptance you are hoping for.

Yes, there are some people who are very anti cosmetic surgery. If the person you’re dating turns out to be one of these then they’re not going to give you the support you need through the next step in your journey.

For many of us the decision we’ve made to get breast implants has been a long, considered process and it’s one you should be able to stand by proudly.

What If I Decide To Say Nothing about my Breast Augmentation?

And now you’re probably thinking if you should even mention it.

Some people find it easier to keep their upcoming breast augmentation separate from dating. If the person you’re dating doesn’t have long term potential in your eyes that seems like a reasonable approach.

On the simplest level, I’d recommend staying away from anything fabricated (I have had one lady ask if she should make up an injury to explain her recovery after the surgery). There are many people I didn’t tell about my breast augmentation journey but I didn’t make up lies.

The point at which staying quieter would become trickier is if you see the person you’re dating during your early recovery period. I didn't tell a lot of people about my breast augmentation and I didn't make up excuses on why I couldn't do something when I was recovering. I simply declined the invite.

Will They Be Able To Tell I have Breast Implants?

Dating also throws into the mix a question we haven’t yet considered, "Will they be able to tell I’ve had breast implants?".  Put quite simply, if they’ve seen you naked before your breast augmentation then YES they will be able to tell!

If you’ve chosen not to say anything before you need to be prepared for an interesting conversation afterwards. Lies have very short legs and sooner or later they’d end up wondering why you didn’t just tell them the truth.

If you don’t want to open up it may be time to ask yourself why. And if it’s because you’re worried about being judged it may be worth figuring out why you’re afraid of their judgment.

Breast Implants are an Investment In You

Whatever you decide in the lead up to your breast augmentation (to tell or not to tell) stand by your decision to get breast implants with pride.

This is an investment you are about to make in yourself... surround yourself with people who support you and remember you can say as much or as little as you want about this.

It’s your decision. :)

Thoughts from Dr. Michelle Roughton

You'll always be the best judge of how to approach these situations.

Jenny Eden provides excellent advice here in how to handle each type of scenario, and she is so right in emphasizing the importance of thinking through why it's important to you.