I’ve had conversations with many women who have reached out to me with a specific internal conflict:
“How do I maintain my integrity AND privacy when people ask me if I had cosmetic surgery?”
One thing I remind anyone who decides to have a breast augmentation is that this is a personal choice that you have made for you. Therefore, how much information you choose to share with others is a personal choice as well!
No Guilt, No Shame
Like I said before, your decision to get breast implants was for you, and not anyone else. Thus, your decision to share information with anyone post-surgery is YOUR choice, not anyone else’s.
If you feel comfortable broadcasting the news on Facebook or posting a new photo to Instagram—great! All the power to you!
But, if you would rather have the procedure done and only tell your partner and/or close friends, than that is perfectly fine as well. You don't owe anyone an apology, and you certainly shouldn't feel guilty or shameful about maintaining your privacy.
Facing Questions Head On
There may certainly be a time where someone directly asks you if you've had a breast augmentation, and if privacy is your thing, choose the “less is more option.” Here are a few situations I've personally encountered:
- If your down time during recovery is going to affect other people (bosses, coworkers, family, etc.) they shouldn't be surprised by your absence.I told those who I didn't want to know that I was having a minor surgery and there was nothing to worry about. If they pressed for more information, I would just say, "It's something I'd rather not talk about, honestly." It always worked.
- After getting breast implants, if someone directly asks if you had breast augmentation surgery, you can say, “Now (name here), Is that any of your business?” If they push again, a great response is, "Even if I did, I wouldn't feel comfortable talking about it."
That’s not you being rude—it’s you telling people you have boundaries they need to respect.
P.S. I also have friends who didn't wear any form-fitting clothing up to a couple months before and after their breast implant surgery. People will forget after a few weeks what your body type is, and often won't be phased when you start bringing back the tighter clothes. :-)
Embrace your decision with confidence!
I can’t emphasis this point enough—even though sometimes it can be hard.
There will always be people who won’t understand your decision, and maybe some people in your life will be unsupportive. I can relate to this fear because I know that within many faith communities (Christian for me), there are mixed sentiments about cosmetic surgery.
I’ve also seen this with women who have experienced criticism or shaming from family members, which is never fun or easy. When all else fails, here's the simple one liner that no one else can argue with:
“I made a decision that was right for me, and I don't want to talk about it with you.”
Be brave, ladies. Don’t feel obligated to prove yourself or defend your actions. You made the decision for your own personal reasons, and that’s the most important perspective that matters.